The Integrative Listening Model

Mini-blog series 3 of 3
The Integrative Listening Model – a model for learning listening.

Screen Shot 2018-01-08 at 19.23.34

This model can be used to learn to listen more effectively. You will recognise the points in Stage 2 from the HURIER model.

How and where can you work on your listening skills?

By a team at Alverno College: Kathleen Thompson, Pamela Leintz, Barbara Nevers & Susan Witowski.

If you are interested in learning more, the article I used for this blog is one chapter in this book: https://www.amazon.com/Listening-Human…/…/ref=reader_auth_dp

The Skills of Listening-Centered Communication

Mini-blog series 2 of 3 on Listening

 

With the understanding of the difference between hearing and listening arises a curiosity in how we actually listen. Some people are appreciated for their listening skills and some are criticised for their lack of listening skills. I find it interesting to reflect on what makes a good listener good.  Judi Brownell breaks down the listening process for us and offers the HURIER model for learning to listen.

 

Take a few minutes next time you are in a conversation or participating in a meeting and reflect on how you listen.  Do you recognise your own behaviour in the HURIER model?

Screen Shot 2018-01-07 at 16.50.11

If you are interested in learning more, Judi Brownell has several books available on Amazon. The article I used for this blog is one chapter in this book: https://www.amazon.com/Listening-Human-Communication-21st-Century/dp/1405181648/ref=reader_auth_dp

Professional Devp: Group Coaching

Resilient Minds continues its professional development series. Today’s session was about Group Coaching.

 

We discussed the advantages and challenges of group coaching from both the client and the coach perspective. We reflected on the coaching process in a group, especially compared with individual coaching. We penetrated in detail the art of determining the agenda in group coaching. Above all, all the participants are thankful to Tatiana Skovoronskaya for sharing her expertise with us and inspiring us!

The Culture Map

Welcome to post 3 of 5 in a mini-series on cultural intelligence. So far, we have looked at what culture is and the five stages of developing cultural intelligence. This post is about learning to eat an elephant in small bites. Culture is a very broad concept and can be analyzed by looking at it’s component parts. There are many models out there for analyzing culture and many of them use the idea of dimensions. Our favorite model is presented by Erin Meyer in her book called ‘The Culture Map.’ Erin proposes 8 dimensions along which cultures can be placed and analyzed. Especially relevant is one culture’s placement relative to another.

The eight dimensions are:

• Communicating

• Evaluating

• Persuading

• Leading

• Deciding

• Trusting

• Disagreeing

• Scheduling
Can you define each of these dimensions? Which dimensions are related to each other? Where is your culture or cultures on the different continuums? What kinds of challenges can arise from different placements?

I have to say that personally I feel that there are aspects of life which are not covered in these 8 dimensions. Two examples are: attitude towards money and dealing with problems. There are others as well. I would love to meet Erin Meyer and discuss someday!

Join us for our workshop called ‘Opening Doors Across Cultures’ on May 19th in Asok, Bangkok to learn more!

Sign up on Eventbrite here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/opening-doors-across-cultures-registration-33182656218?aff=es2
#culturalintelligence #resilientminds

The 5 Stages

Welcome back! In this post, I will share with you 5 stages of cultural intelligence development as presented by David C. Thomas and Kerr Inkson in their book, ‘Cultural Intelligence, Surviving and Thriving in the Global Village.’

 
Let’s imagine that you find yourself participating in a multi-cultural environment. That could be any number of scenarios: you are living in a cultural not your own, you work in a job where you interact with people from a culture not your own or even possibly you are involved in a community/volunteer group related to immigrants to your own home culture. In any of these scenarios and many more, you will be more successful at achieving your goals with increased cultural intelligence (and, by the way increased emotional intelligence!). The good news is that you can learn new cultures with cultural self-awareness and focused intentional change.

 
The following is taken more or less directly from the book referenced above:
Stage 1 – Reactivity to external stimuli. Here we don’t even realize that cultural differences exist and mindlessly adhere to our own culture.

 
Stage 2 – Recognition of other cultural norms and the existence of a motivation to learn more. The individual is curious and wants to learn more and may find a foreign culture very complex and hard-to-understand.

 

Stage 3 – Accommodation of other cultural norms in one’s own mind. We deepen our understanding of cultural variation and start to understand cultural norms in their own context. We understand how to behave, even if we find it uncomfortable.

 
Stage 4 – Assimilation of diverse cultural norms into alternative behaviors. Individuals have a broad repertoire of behaviors which can be used depending on the situation. They are able to function almost as if they were in their home culture and members of other cultures accept them and feel comfortable interacting.

 
Stage 5 – Proactivity in cultural behavior thanks to an understanding of cues that others do not notice. Individuals are attuned to the nuances of intercultural interactions and can automatically change their behaviors.

 
What do you think of these stages? Where would you place yourself? How can you intentionally improve your own cultural intelligence?

 
If you find this topic interesting, consider joining us at our Opening Doors Across Cultures workshop on May 19th in Bangkok.

 
Sign up on Eventbrite here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/opening-doors-across-cultures-registration-33182656218?aff=es2
#culturalintelligence

Culture

Hi! In preparation for our next session of Opening Doors Across Cultures, I thought it would be interesting to discuss the topic of cultural intelligence. Please join me for the next 5 blog posts for a discussion on this exciting topic.

 
Understanding and being able to thrive in cultures other than your own is a critical skill in today’s interconnected and globalized world. We are living in a time of dramatically increased opportunity and need for interacting and understand people from around the globe. We see, hear and experience people from around the globe with diverse beliefs, attitudes, values and assumptions. Understanding each other’s culture will greatly improve our ability to get things done and to build better personal and business relationships.

 
What is culture? We all carry in us patterns of thinking, feeling and potential acting. Most of this is learned early in life and established as our patterns. These patterns can be considered ‘software of the mind.’ The sources our mental programs lie within the social environment in which we grew up, our family, neighborhood, school, youth groups, sports teams, activity groups and in our community. In the field of social anthropology, these patterns are referred to as culture. Culture is collective because it is almost always shared with others from the same social environment. Culture is learned, deriving from our social environment. One our patterns are established, it is very difficult to unlearn them and to re-learn new patterns. Culture is different from human nature and from individual personality, as is shown in the diagram. *

 
What are your thoughts? What is your best cultural difference story? How would you define your own personal culture? What is culture comprised of?

 
There you have a brief overview of what culture is. Join us in our workshop ‘Opening Doors Across Cultures’ to find out even more about increasing your own cultural intelligence!

 
Sign up on Eventbrite here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/opening-doors-across-cultures-registration-33182656218?aff=es2

 
*From: Cultures and Organizations: Software of the Mind, Third Edition, by Geert Hofstede, Gert Jan Hofstede, Michael Minkov

 
#culturalintelligence #resilientminds

Social Identity Groups

Today I was introduced to a new concept: Social Identity Groups. I am participating in an online course offered by Case Western Reserve University called Inspired Leadership and led by Dr. Richard Boyatzis. Social Identity Groups were introduced to us today in the context of coaching for compassion.

Social identity groups are quite simply, groups from which we pull part of our identity. Sometimes it’s a group that you’re a part of. Sometimes it’s a group that you explicitly join. And sometimes it’s an aspirational group. But it’s always a group that has some shared values with you, or has some important meaning that you share with them. Examples are: universities, sports teams, religious groups and professional organizations.

We did an interesting exercise where we listed the social identity groups we felt we were a part of and then reflected over whether they were each generally positive for us or generally negative for us. We also reflected over whether they were helping us in achieving our own personal vision. Being a part of a negative social identity group can act as a hinder to achieving one’s own vision. They can also provide the positive support and inspiration needed to keep at it, even when the way is bumpy and the purpose sometimes forgotten. For example, if your personal vision includes living a long, healthy life, then perhaps one of your goals is to ride in a bike race or perhaps to be able to bike 100 km each week. And, if you are part of a group that organizes long bike rides on the weekends, this will help you achieve your vision. I think many of my classmates were surprised by the results of this activity. One of my personal reflections was how easy it was to identify my social identity groups in the era of social media. I could almost just go through the groups to which I belong and list them.

Which social identity groups do you belong to? Are they positive or negative for you? Are they helping you achieve your personal vision?

Cordially yours,

Catherine

social-identity-groups

Picture borrowed from: https://www-tc.pbs.org/wnet/need-to-know/files/2011/11/GroupIdentity-post.jpg